Thanks for sharing about your experience! I’m sorry it’s not working out, but the information is helpful for all of us to know.
I agree with what you’re saying about people who never intend to become patrons. At some point, it’s not worth pursuing them.
At the same time, I recently asked an old friend why she wasn’t supporting me and it was a really useful conversation–super awkward too, of course! But still worthwhile. She explained that there was a simple resistance to just doing the thing, signing up on the Patreon platform. Also, the thought of it being a monthly charge was a thing too–having to take that into account for her budgeting. She made a suggestion for another reward I might offer: the $15 pledge for a half hour art career consultation. The new reward has gotten me some new supporters AND my friend ended up pledging!